Sunday, 15 May 2016

How to avoid being a starter wife

 



 
 

The Starter Wife

We live in an abundant consumer driven society. People begin with starter home and cars. Then soon upgrade to something better.  Cell phones and TV's are a disposable commodity. As soon as the next model is out people want it. I deserve, therefore I should have. More and better is the common mantra.
 
In this era of entitlement and self fulfillment, we are faced with a new phenomenon. The starter wife. A couple of years ago I went on a church retreat, and met a wonderful stay at home mom.  Who gave up her career to stay at home and take care of her family's which included three adopted children? Her husband is a successful lawyer that works downtown. He is an elder in the church. Recently she notice subtle changes, in her husband. It started with staying at work late. Then progressed to going for drinks with single people, under the pretence of networking. Later he wanted a sporty two seater car.  When questioned by his wife why, he wanted a two seater sports car. His response was, I worked hard for it and everyone else in his office has one.  Eventually he asked for a divorce. He informed his wife that because of his elevated status, he could afford a younger better looking wife.

 

Factors that contribute to the starter wife.

·                     In the 1970 women started to become fully immersed in the workforce. More men and women working side by side increased the odds of office affairs.
·                     The 1970's brought irreconcilable differences, for divorce. Couples no longer having to have a valid reason for divorce. This resulted in removing the social stigma associated with divorce.
·                     Baby Boomers (people born between the years of 1946 and 1964) saw their parents in loveless and unhappy marriages now adapted a new motto if it's not working its better to separate. Why should I stay in a bad marriage? As a result we now have the disposable marriage.
 

How to avoid being a starter wife

There are a few steps that you can take to avoid this problem.
1.      First start hanging around with married people, Divorce is contagious, if everyone around you is having a divorce, you both will be influence by their actions.
2.      Have date night weekly.  Don't just go to the movie, make it interesting.  Do a bit of research and try something new.
·          Check out your local museum or Art Gallery and see if they have a wine a cheese night, even if you don't drink wine the ambiance is beautiful.
·          Download the free astronomy app on your phone. Drive into the country and check out the stars. Or view a meteor shower together, visit the Almanac site for the next meteor shower in your area.  http://www.almanac.com/content/meteor-showers-guide#.
·         If you prefer to go out for coffee, choose a new coffee shop each week, and rate the coffee.
 
3.      Have sex on a regular basis. If he wanted a friend he would never have gotten married. One of the many perks of marriage is the marriage bed. If you're not up to sex, figure out what the problem is and do something about it. There is no reason why he should suffer. 
 
4.      Communication, the art of communication is lost.  Make a point to have dinner together each night at the dinner table, with the T.V. off. If you're out together as a family, make it a rule, no cell phone interruptions. There is nothing worse than seeing a couple out on a date and one is on the phone. Couples seem to think that because their already married that they can get away with this type of behaviour
 
In he end there is no sure fire way to secure your relationships. If someone is going to cheat or leave they will.  One thing you can do is stay true to yourself. Don't give up all your friends and hobbies. Never let your husband be your end all. For one thing no man wants a woman smothering them. It's a sure fire way of losing his interest or having him take advantage of you. Having a life of your own is a sign of independence, it also shows that this lady knows she has true value and is a prize. Chances when he sees you as a prize he may be less likely to dispose of you.
 
 

Saturday, 7 May 2016

Stay home Moms answers to insulting qestions




Stay at home moms, answers to insulting inquires

When I became a stay at home mom I felt I constantly had to field insulting questions. Half the times I didn't really know how to answer them. Here are some great responses I have found from other moms. I tend to like the sarcastic answers  best.

"What do you do with all that free time?"
·         "I get to watch Real Housewives, reruns of Sex in the City, all day. My gosh! You should see the Gardener.  Life's great!"

"It must be nice not to have to work."
·         Are you inferring I don't work?

"What did you used to do when you worked?"
·         "I still work, and I work harder than I used to." but  if  you must know,  I was a rocket science

"Your husband must do really well. I couldn't afford to stay home!"
·         " It's certainly nice being home, I work 365 days a week with  no breaks, no lunch, no vacation time, no salary and overtime pay... but at least no one else is raising my kids. I'm very lucky we can afford for me to be here." 

"When do you plan to return to your career?"
·         "I know, my time would be much better spent in traffic and cubicles!"
·         "You know, they say the greatest joy in life comes from making a major corporation more money."
·         "Sometimes when I'm at home with my kids, I do feel guilty that I can't be spending more time at work

 "You don't work, so you don't understand."
·         "Oh, please. Not this again?" Your right I sit and eat bon bon's all day.

"Do you feel like getting your education was a waste of time?"
·         "Educated mothers raise educated kids."
·         "I can't understand why I would subcontract the raising of my children to someone less qualified than I am."
 
"Life as you know it will be over, you'll never read a book , travel, or go to the bathroom and shower in piece again"
·         "You think raising my children is a waste of my time?"
·         "Yes, a far better strategy would be to, pay strangers to raise them and then wonder later where I went wrong.

"I could never do what you do. I'd die without adult conversation."
·         "The greatest thing about everyone being different is we each have our own life and own value system.  I get to decide what is best for my family." I stay at home with my children because I love them enough to give them the best."
·         Once you have kids, you will understand nothing is more important than your kids.
 
"Does your husband give you an allowance from his paycheck?"
·         "I'm the full time chef, accountant, nanny, pet sitter, babysitter, teacher, nurse, and chauffeur, referee, cleaner, personal shopper, laundress and hooker. No! He hands me his pay check and I give him an allowance.

Wednesday, 6 April 2016

Your only as sexy as what you wear


Your only as sexy as what you wear

 
Big girl panties, utilitarian panties, granny panties, call them what you please.
If you’re wearing white cotton underwear you feel like white cotton.

If your wearing a lavender silk bra with peekaboo lace trim edges and cute little boy shorts panties chances, are you will feel sexy? Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with white cotton panties, but ladies how many  of you out there are wearing underwear that are so thin and transparent you can see your flesh through it. Listen up, if your underwear's have turned to dingy gray, throw it out, not sure what the original color was? Throw it out. If it ripped, stretched, stained defiantly throw it out. Take pride in what you put on your body and what you put on it. If you of all people don't that how will you expect others to treat you with dignity and respect.
 

I for one love underwear, I collect bras and panties like some women collect shoes, I have a multitude of colors, material and styles. I have a bra that I consider beyond sexy, when I put it on I feel like I'm wielding the ultimate in female power. Remember what your mother said, you never know when you will end up in hospital. 
 

European Women


European women are the connoisseur when it comes to fashion. The French women have the ability to dress sexy, but not slutty. They have the knack a subtlety little tease here and a flirt there. It may be as simple as a slight shift of a shoulder revealing a sexy bra strap. It's usually the small touches that have the largest impact. Haven't you been to a social function, you see a woman she seems to have it all, her nails are done, she dressed impeccably then her top shifts on her shoulder you see the  strap of her bra its a glorious red silk studded with little red rhinestones. It just happens to match her top. The first thing I would think is wow! She is so put together that even her underclothing matches her outer layer.   It's an easy way to go from ordinary to extraordinary not to mention sexy. 
 
 

Take Pride 

 


It amazes me how many women tell me they have only two bras, and they have no regard for their underwear appearance.  I'm shocked, I don't purchase nice bras and panties for my husband,  I do if for myself, regardless if I was with someone or not, I would still do it.  I love having the cutest set of indies on the mere fact that know one else sees it is not a problem. All this proves is that I feel I'm worth the effort. Many women don't love themselves or their bodies to do it.   If you don't want to do it for yourself do it for your partner. Some women feel that men don't care about the package, but the way a present is presented is very important. You may FEEL YOUR SPOUSE HAS seen it before but the best part of the present is in the packaging, it's the same as foreplay.  Study has shown men are highly visual beings, if you think your man doesn't pay attention to what you're wearing your sadly mistaken.

Purge


Make it a point today go through your draw and throw out all your old bras and panties. I personally feel you should have a bra for each day of the week. With two pairs of panties for each bra. Be sure they match.
 

Fit


When choosing a bras consider the following. Make sure it fits. Take the time to go for a bra fitting.  It has to be practical. If your big busted make sure it provides the support you need. Have a variety of bras, I have some bras that are so pretty but I rarely wear them, they are lumpy under my clothes I can only wear it under sweaters. Panties choose something that is cotton or synthetic blend for everyday use.  It needs to be comfortable, the material has to be soft, not irritating to the skin. The other think to keep in mind is breathable (as grannies always say Miss Doris has to breathe). For me its important for everyday underwear's to be practical, flattering, and somewhat sexy. I refuse to wear underwear that my granny would wear. I have very few white bras or panties, the ones I do have, I only use them for special occasions. As granny said if you can't keep your whites, bright and white, avoid it. I hate to see a flirty bra strap that is suppose to be white that is dingy, gray from dirt.  There are plenty of other colors out there, no need to get white. Finally be sure to choose some luxurious and sexy indies, for those days that you want to elevate yourself to diva for the day. 
 

Proper Care


Once you have purchase your underwear its important to take care them. Back in the day my mother and grandma use to hand wash their underwear as soon as they took them off. I now see the merit in this, they last longer, less stretching, the color stay vibrant, and you don't have the dies of other clothing running into it. That is still the best way to do it today. Unfortunately I'm not as diligent as mom. The majority of my cloths go in the washer.  My really pretty bras and panties the ones I really love, I hand wash them and hang them to dry. If you decide to toss them in the wash, be sure to put in on gentle cycle, and to use a mild detergent.

 

No excuses


Finally for all you big breasted women out their. My girlfriend has very large breast and has often said it's very difficult to get bras in her size that are pretty. Now that we have the internet there are a number of sites on line that are catering to underwear and lingerie for the larger women.  Just recently I went on a trip with a woman that was in her eighties. She forgot her bathing suits so she wore her bra and panties to the beach she as a extremely large breasted women, but her underwear could put a lot of the young women to shame. 
 

Not happy with body


On a finally note I would be negligent if I didn't mention something about, all  you women out there that are not please with your body size. All you women that are waiting to loose those extra few pounds so they will look better. To that I say stuff it, I think there's a little bit of a vamp in most women that like the fact  that no one knows they have tart it a up a bit under their clothing.  Women regardless of their shape or size look absolute amazing in sexy underclothes. Just look at those commercials out there for plus size women. I love them, especially the one where the woman walks in the room and gives her husband this sultry look.  What got this man to take note? It wasn't her size that got the man attention.  It was her attitude, the look said, let see you "handle all this hotness baby".   But I'm sure what gave her a bit of that come hither, bring on your A game attitude, was the fact that she felt sexy in her lingerie.

Below are some links that I have found.

Adore Me

http://www.adoreme.com/bras-and-panties.html

Hip and Curve

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-bras

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wednesday, 27 May 2015


Animal Attraction







Animal Attraction by Jill Shalvishe - Book Review by Veronica


If your looking for a really good romance that builds up from friendship, and the characters in the novel don't just hop into bed, this is it.  Jill Shalvishe has done a nice job of creating a combination of romance and passion.  Jade one of  the main characters in the novel is sassy, and has some witty come backs.  Dr Dell her romantic interest, is a man whore, who has no desire to settle down. You know the story..... once Jade is on the scene he cant help himself but fall for her. Jade dresses sexy and classy. I love that  I could practically see the outfits in my mind that the author created for Jade. Jade, is aware of all the women Dr Dell dates and that he has a commitment phobia, and of course she not interested in a wham bam thank you ma'am sex. But, what women can resist a man that dotes on animals? I would certainly read another of her books.


Book Cover


She’s tempting his basic instincts…

Sunshine, Idaho, is a quiet ranching town, a perfect place to give injured animals a refuge…or to find one yourself. Veterinarian Dell Connelly suspects there’s a reason his clinic’s uber-efficient receptionist has taken shelter here.

Jade Bennett couldn’t be happier to escape the big-city jungle to work with hurt animals, and have a forlorn stray kitten make its home under her desk…or enjoy the gorgeous views of her ruggedly sexy boss.

Jade is used to planning everything in her life, but Dell’s seductive, alluring ways have sparked an uncontrollable desire. And though Dell has never had time for love, Jade’s strength and sass is the kind of call no red-blooded male can resist.







Tuesday, 12 May 2015

About Me



About Me

My name is Veronica, I have been a stay at home mom for the last 3 years, and I LOVE IT! I have an obsession with Pinterest, fortunately for me it has helped with the Domestic Goddess persona that I have adopted. The persona, is a blend of June Clever meets Angelina Jolie, for those of you that are too young to have heard of June Cleaver, think Martha Stuart.

V the Domestic Goddess blog is all about my quest to be the best mom that I can possibly be. Part of that involves my effort to reduce the amount of time my twelve year old (Liam) spends around the T.V, and on the computer. If any of you have young kids and, teens your are probably aware that it’s not easy to get them off Minecraft and Runescape, or whatever game that is the Rave. I would also like to be the best wife that I can be. I want to be the type of wife my husband looks forward to coming home to, hence Angela Angelina Jolie part of the persona. The rest of the blog will be random pieces of me, my faith, my likes, dislike, family, friends and my art.


Me...... I'm a girlie girl, I love pretty dresses, anything to do with home decor, crafts, and my new found passion cooking. I have never been a good cook, however, 3 years ago I decided to make Chinese food. I went on Pinterest looking for some recipes and got carried away and made 8 dishes. When my family sat down for dinner that night they actual thought I purchased it. After that I was hooked! My husband (Jeff) and eldest son (Joshua) are now foodies. They really enjoy home cooked meals and appreciate every meal that I cook regardless of the outcome. It still surprises me when I hear my husband say to someone Veronica's a great cook.


I hope you enjoy my blog and I would love to hear from you.



V

Monday, 11 May 2015

Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë Book Review


 Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë Book Review








Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë 

Every once in a while I will take the time to read a classic piece. I also useful to read  if  I want to read a version of the novel that is being rewritten with a modern twist.

Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë - Book Review by Veronica



Wuthering Heights is a love story about Heathcliff and Catherine. The smoldering passion that Heathcliff feels for Catherine in this novel is off the chart. The story line is an unconventional love story, Emily Brontë has deviated from the normal love story that does not takes place hear and now. It exists on a completely different plane the best part of Heathcliff’s and Catherine love story will take part after death. Heathcliff’s and Catherines`s  existence is based solely on just passing time till death, then they will be reunited. The two lovers have such a longing to be together after death that on Heathcliffs  death bed his eyes where focused and gleaming because he knew he would be with his true love. If every there was a man to set the standard high for other men it would be Heathcliffs.
Here are a few pieces in the novel that made my heart skip.

Heart broken after Catherine death Heathcliff begs- She may take any form, he says, and even drive him mad—as long as she stays with him. 

After Catherine death - Heathcliff requires that the sexton heed his special instructions 'concerning the two coffins.  So that his and Catherine's meeting will not be spoiled the sexton was to remove the side of the coffin now in prepration so that he could be placed beside Catherine facing her and they would mingle as one with the earth. 
Finally declaration to his undying love is when Heathcliff is on his death bed dying he quotes, - I tell you. I have nearly attained my heaven. 

Heathcliff’s and Catherines met as children. Heathcliff a poor boy with no social standings. Falls madly in love with Catherine who only wishes to marry a man for social standing, Heathcliff is poor. Catherine afraid to deviate from what society deems an acceptable  end up marring  Edgar a proper gentlemen. In her own way I believe she did love Edgar.  But not to the depth which she loves Heathcliff. In one section she says `` she also states that she loves Heathcliff as though they shared the same soul. After she marries Edgar which in turns drives Heathcliff crazy, and he becomes ruthless in his pursuit of ruining Edgar, and Edgar and Catherine's daughter. No object is sacred in his pursuit for revenge not even using his own son.
Heathcliff behaves cruelly, he is  devious, heartless toward many of the other characters in the novel. Yet reading this you can see he does it out of the pain of his love for Catherine.  It's hard not to feel pity for him and at the same time a sorrow for the people that he is abusing.

 Book Cover



A country gentleman returns one night to his isolated and unforgiving home with a gypsy child tucked under his cloak. Treated as an animal, the child Heathcliff grows up twisted and wild. But he and the daughter of the house, Catherine, are inseparable and love each other like they were one being. When they grow up and Catherine wishes to enter the society which Heathcliff cannot, the lives of everyone around them are destroyed in the rending. Only the generation to follow them contains the seeds of hope and reconstruction.
The narrative structure of Wuthering Heights was highly innovative and original when the novel was first published. Emily Brontë played with the assumptions that a story is told chronologically and that a narrator is honest.

Thursday, 7 May 2015

Avocado Sandwich


Avocado Sandwich
Lunch Idea



Healthy Avocado Sandwich for kids lunches

I have to start getting a bit creative with lunch sandwich for my youngest son.
He has never really liked meat, but tolerates it because I don't cook enough vegetarian meals.
I decided to throw together a sandwich with a few of the things he enjoys.
This is amazing if you grill the outside of the bread a bit. You can also toast it before you make it.

For each sandwich

Bread or bun
1 slice of Swiss cheese
1 layer of yellow or red peppers
4 to slices of cucumber, or enough to to cover the bread
1 or 2 slices of tomato
Appropriately one ice cream size scoop of Avocado mixture


Avocado Mixture

One avocado mashed, a dash of hot sauce and 1/4 teaspoon of lemon
Depending on how much you put on each sandwich it will do for two to three sandwiches.



To see video on instruction for this sandwich
View my youtube channel

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVAcoF0D1wo


Tuesday, 5 May 2015

A Thousand Splendid Suns by khaled Hosseini book Review

A Thousand Splendid Suns by khaled Hosseini



After 103 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list and with four million copies of The Kite Runner shipped, Khaled Hosseini returns with a beautiful, riveting, and haunting novel that confirms his place as one of the most important literary writers today.

Propelled by the same superb instinct for storytelling that made The Kite Runner a beloved classic, A Thousand Splendid Suns is at once an incredible chronicle of thirty years of Afghan history and a deeply moving story of family, friendship, faith, and the salvation to be found in love.
Born a generation apart and with very different ideas about love and family, Mariam and Laila are two women brought jarringly together by war, by loss and by fate. As they endure the ever escalating dangers around them—in their home as well as in the streets of Kabul—they come to form a bond that makes them both sisters and mother-daughter to each other, and that will ultimately alter the course not just of their own lives but of the next generation. With heart-wrenching power and suspense, Hosseini shows how a woman’s love for her family can move her to shocking and heroic acts of self-sacrifice, and that in the end it is love, or even the memory of love, that is often the key to survival.
A stunning accomplishment, A Thousand Splendid Suns is a haunting, heartbreaking, compelling story of an unforgiving time, an unlikely friendship, and an indestructible love. 


A Thousand Splendid Suns by khaled Hosseini - Book Review


Let me start off by saying I love romance books happily every after.I read to escape and relax; this book for me wasn't an easy read. It was difficult emotionally.  The violence and the cultural limitations these women had to endure was a challenge for me to get my head around. There where parts that really made me wonder at the depravity of man kind. Having said all that it’s defiantly one of the best books I have every read. Having seen these women in such disparity made the end so much sweeter.After one week of reading this book I met women my own age that lived in Afghanistan.She was 13 years old married to a man 20 years older than her.  Her husband was Physical and emotionally abusive. This story may be fictionally, but as my friend spoke to me I realized that Khaled Hosseini wrote this novel as close to real life as you can get.In my opinion the  power to endure was the  key ingredient  In Khaled Hosseini`s novel, A Thousand Splendid Suns, The story is about two women Mariam and Lila both at the mercy of Rasheed their husband. These women are just vessels for producing children, sexual release or unhinging his anger. The story starts out with Mariam, a young girl and a social pariah who faces many challenges.  At the age of fourteen she is betrayed by her father, her mother dies, and is forced into marrying an abusive husband.Married to Rasheed only for her ability to produce children, after seven miscarries she is at the mercy of her husband, in a county where women have no rights and are the property of their  husbands.When Mariam husband decides to take another wife in the hopes of producing a child  Mariam protest initially.  Eventually Mariam grows to love Laila and becomes a protector and mother for Laila.  She eventually becomes a grandmother to her children all the while trying to protect them from her husband violence.  Laila  grew up the opposite of Mariam,  well read, and educated. She fell in love with her childhood friend Tariq. Laila feeling all was lost when she believed her childhood sweetheart Laila agrees marry Rasheed years older than herself.This story captures your attention the entire time.  You will want to stay up all night to find out the outcome. The story had me wanting to speed read but afraid to do so, when Mariam and Laila where attempting to escape. Close to the end of the book Hosseini has the reader overwhelmed with every single emotion.  You see the escalating danger, will Rasheed kill Laila?  The suspense builds up to an apex. Finally  Mariam takes control, like a mother bear guarding her cub.  Mariam has had a chance to do a self assessment of her own identity, she realizes she can challenge the identities that have been imposed on her, and she has a choices, she can change the course of her loved ones lives, and her own. It’s a work of art how Hosseini ties everything together with one single act.
In all members of the animal kingdom, the most vicious animal you can face is that of a mother protecting her young. Women have been known to accomplish amazing feats and in the end Mariam will do anything to keep Liliam and her kids safe. This is a pivotal point in the novel. In one final act Mariam uses the combination of both her inner strength and physical strength to release the chains of bondage.


Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Pinwheel windmill

Pinwheel

 
Make your own handheld windmill or pinwheel. Blow on it to see it in action. Or take it out on a windy day, or make plastic ones to have in your garden.


Cut out two 9 inch squares each a different color 



This one we decided to try foil paper.



Fold squares so they form a triangle. Then fold triangle again to form a x with the folds.


Fold both sheets



Open square to see two fold lines crisscrossing in the center. With the ruler, mark about 1 1/2 inch
from center on each fold line. With scissors cut on each fold line stopping at the mark. 


Apply glue to one sheet.



Place the 2nd sheet on top of the glue to form one sheet.


 Hold the point of one section bend it over so it touches the center. Hold it in place with a dab of glue or use pin to hold all in the center or use tape. Use a  thumbtack to hold it in place in the center.




Carefully stick the thumbtack through a eraser of a pencil, or a straw or in our case a chop stick.
Now your ready to blow on your pinwheel.

Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Spaghetti squash lasagna

Lasagna Spaghetti Squash 




Lasagna Spaghetti Squash 

1 Spaghetti Squash
2 Tbsp oil
2  Crush Garlic
1/2 onion
1 cup ground beef
1 cup of lentil
2 tablespoon basil
1/2 tsp salt and pepper
1 tsp Italian seasons
1 cups Spaghetti sauce
1 cup salsa
1 cup Ricotta
1 egg
1/4 Parmesan cheese
1 cup mozzarella cheese

How to cook spaghetti squash

Heat oven to 375 degrees.



Cut the squash in half and remove the pulp and seeds.
Use a brush and coat with olive oil.



Add salt and pepper.


Turn the squash over and place in oven for approximately 40 minutes.
Squash is ready when you can pierce it with a fork.



Using a fork scoop out squash.

 How to cook Spaghetti squash video available
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVhv93vSnBs

Prepare Sauce



Add two table spoons of oil and 2 crush garlic cloves


Add 1/2 cup of onions white or red.


In a frying pan cook one cup of ground beef, two tbsp spoon fresh basil or 2 tsp of fresh basil, 1/2 tsp salt and pepper, 1 tsp Italian Season. 



Mix ground beef and lentils together in a bowl.


Add 1 cup of Spaghetti sauce
1 cup of salsa.


Add one cup of Ricotta cheese
1 egg mix well.


One cup of sauce in each half.



One cup of Ricotta cheese.


Add remaining sauce.


1/4 cup Parmesan cheese.


Add Spaghetti Squash.


Add Mozzarella cheese place. I lined the pan, for easy clean up. Put it in the oven on broil 2 to 3 minutes till the cheese is a golden brown
If your reheating this, heat till it is warm all the way through.


Remove once it is a golden brown.

Video available.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e29az2Dh68E

Monday, 27 April 2015

How to apply Perfume


The AT

The Art of Perfuming the Body




The Bolt of Lightning




How to apply Perfume


Perfume is an accessory for the skin. It is your personal signature.  The perfume you choose to wear, acts as a trigger in the memory  of the person that smells it.  Making the  wearer impossible to forget, years later your  smell should evoke a pleasurable memory.  The key to applying perfume is subtlety, the person should have to lean in to smell you, then you  know you have applied it correctly, keep in mind,  close proximity,   a kiss on the check or a casual hug.


Start with a clean base

The first things to remember when applying perfume is to start with a clean base.  On the inside and outside. If you have been  eating  copious amounts  of garlic and curry your glands will be filled with that scent.  And no matter how much perfume you put on the your skin will have that base scent.


Do not layer scents

All body products should be the same scent don't bombard people with dozens of scents. Some people like to layer scents but it doesn't always work out.  If you must, try mixing a tangy citrus with a floral scent to create a sensual bouquet.


How to apply perfume

Fragrance should be sprayed on clean damp skin. The scent will absorb better when the skin is slightly damp, so apply  just after showering. Most people say spray the air then step into it. Personally I find that a waste of perfume. To avoid spraying too much on your skin, hold the bottle 5 inches away from your body, then spray your body. If you spray too much, apply a little rubbing alcohol on a cotton swab to remove it.

Where to apply Perfume

Traditionally the most common area to apply perfume is to the pulse points. The fluctuation of the temperature of your body will allow the fragrance to release the scent slowly.

Pulse Points location

Just above the temple, on the sides of the head.
Side of the neck below the jaw in the back
It is located on the inside of the arm above the elbow
The wrist
Groin is located , in the inside front of the leg where it joins the pelvic.
It is located on the foot behind the ankles
It is located on the top of the foot.


When not to apply perfume to pulse points

Fragrance should not be applied to pulse points if its a hot day or you are prone to sweating. The fragrance will mingle with your sweat and no longer have the desired effect. Another area to not apply perfume is to areas that have large amounts of folds of fat. When sweat and perfume are mingled together it gives the impression that you are trying to cover up the smell of your sweat. Effective places to apply perfume that tend not to sweat as much are  tummy, upper arm. behind your calf's in your hair.  Avoid putting a lot of perfume in your hair you don't want the alcohol in the perfume drying it out. You can also apply perfume on your clothes.


Applying perfume for seduction

Perfume can play an intricate role in seduction, the French have used it for years. First choose a scent that you love, something that is an extension of you.  Do not choose a scent that is popular, you want something so unique and intoxicating that even after your gone it will remind him of you.  Practice the art of seduction by perfuming your  body. Do not spray your entire body, your goal is to draw him in bit by bit  leaving a  sensual path of scent down your body. Starting by spraying a bit in your hair brush, then brush it into your hair. Later each movement of your hair will leave a subtle wake that will draw him in. Then create a  path from your head to your feet.  Apply a touch behind your neck. Next spritz under breast, dab your belly button, and above the knee, finish it off spraying the top of your feet. In the words of Christian Dior- Perfume is a mark of female identity and the final touch of her style.